- June 28, 2020
Social Media American Girl
SocialMedia: American Girl
Theevolution and advancement of information technology over the yearshas initiated powerful and adverse effects to children regardingtheir social, psychological and emotional functionality. Mostimportantly, research based on the over-reliance on informationtechnology indicates that social media has brought about a hostileculture especially to girls through cyberbullying, harassment,sexism, just to mention a few. The extensive use of social mediaamong the youth in the 21st century has facilitated in destroyingtheir lives. For instance, parents believe their children only usethe standard social media platforms such as Facebook, Twitter, andInstagram among others. However, there are other applications wherechildren interact and share coded messages that parents may notfathom. These applications do not reveal the identities of the usersand thus providing a suitable platform for cyber bullies and sexiststo harass innocent subscribers possibly. Additionally, the youth haveadopted these ways in their social lives where they meet people onthe applications, date them and even share emotions, but later breakup with them on the same venues. Nevertheless, the current studyseeks to develop a lesson plan for children aged between 13 to 19years on the etiquette of dating, existing conflicts, and break-upson social media.
Firstof all, texting or rather, sending text messages, entails one of theleading means of communication employed by young people in thesociety. It has evolved into a medium where the youth use it inromantic and sexual correspondence. These elements have driventexting towards a near obscuring of earlier forms of relationalcommunication. On one side, texting allows people to develop andmaintain romantic relationships while on the other hand, it bringsabout potential strains (Sales, 2016). According to research, textingvia messages, tweets or snap chats involves a relatively contemporarychannel which lacks rules and regulations on how people shouldinteract. The absence of these expectations eventually brings aboutconflicts as well as disappointments, especially in relationships.Similarly, research in the field of interaction indicates that therelacks an established etiquette standard for measuring the length,frequency or response time. The absence of these aspects drives userstowards the interpretation of texting etiquette based on their pastexperiences as well as social cues from their partners (Sales, 2016).
Mostfundamentally, texting has introduced a particular form of addictionwhere people tend to express their feelings through messages andposts on social media platforms. For instance, based on their pastexperiences, some people tend to relay their disappointments andinitiate conflicts through “exting.” The phrase exting refers tothe situation where an individual sends messages to their partnerunder the influence of alcohol because they perceive it the best ideaat the moment (Sales, 2016). Some of the most affected people by theeffects of texting include teenage girls who spend a significantportion of their time on various online apps. However, theircontinuous online presence into these social media platforms disruptstheir attention at school and home through interfering with theirability to develop health and comprehensive communication skills.Additionally, the effects include a significant decline in thecommunication skills among people of all ages (Sales, 2016).
Similarly,the effects regarding the reliance on social media in dating,existing conflicts and break-ups bring about more severe consequencesto girls in the 21st century. For instance, girls face the pressureto post skin-baring selfies as well as numbness that emanates fromtext requests from male peers for nude pictures (Sales, 2016).Nevertheless, these aspects lead to a culture of shaming andcyberbullying that negatively affects girls through the struggle tobuild and maintain their sense of self in a crooked onlineenvironment. They also bring about challenges in the correctdeciphering of nuanced or nonverbal meaning through their gadgets(Sales, 2016).
TheObjective and Lesson
Theessence of the current study entails creating a lesson plan forteenagers aged between 13 to 19 years. It will highlight some of theeffects attributed to the etiquette of dating, exting conflicts, andbreak-ups on social media. Most importantly, the paper will focus onstudies conducted based on the topic with emphasis on American girlsas propagated by Nancy Sales. It will also attempt to elaborate theimpact of texting on romantic relationships. Firstly, the objectiveof the lesson plan entails restructuring communication structures inthe way people relate through social media platforms (Sales andPlummer, 2016). According to Nancy, most discussions conductedregarding the welfare of teenagers in the community tend to excludethem. Therefore, to acquire sufficient information about the effectsand experiences of social media to teenagers, there needs to be aninclusion of the people most affected. The achievement of thesefactors requires incorporation of the teenagers with the aim ofpointing out the most important aspects that drive teens to rely moston the phones (Sales and Plummer, 2016).
Sales(2016), engaged in an extensive study where she interacted withteenagers, especially girls, about their addiction to texting andexpressing their feelings through social media. For instance, shecommunicated with a thirteen-year-old girl, Cassy, who indicated thather male peers tend to blackmail them for nude pictures. Thisblackmail followed closely by threats that if the girls fail to sendmore of their nude photos, the boys will post the rest of socialmedia exposing them to the world (Sales and Plummer, 2016). Accordingto Cassy, such incidents indicate that social media primarilycontributes towards the pressure among American girls. Nancy suggeststhat social media as well as new technology changes and shapes thesexual behavior among teenagers. These elements occur through theease of access and influence of online porn where teens tend toemulate the activities they view on social media sites. Some of thempractice these activities but in the wrong ways in that they pressuretheir peers to take part in the deeds.
Additionally,Nancy uses the story of Padma, a teenage girl whose Facebook pictureswere portraying her wearing casual clothes and hanging out withfriends acquired few likes. The indicates that once Padma changed herdress code and adopted more revealing clothes, she received morelikes and comments such as sexy and even dubbed as a ‘pornstar’(Sales and Plummer, 2016). The authors use this incident and compareit to another one where another girl bullied the Padma on Facebook toportray how teenage girls become hypersexualized by the firstencountering destruction of their self-esteem and later adopting waysthat make them appealing to social media users. Most importantly,Padma’s story indicate the difficulties teenage girls face as theygrow into the world where people rate appearance based on sexualexpression (Sales and Plummer, 2016). These aspects drive teenagegirls to post sexually charged pictures of themselves with the aim ofgetting positive reinforcement.
Contrastingly,as much as the author points out adverse effects of social media toteenage girls, she also highlights some actual applications. Forinstance, she indicates that social media provides a platform for newforms of activism where young people may express their views. Theachievement of these elements is shown in the story of Kira, one ofthe only black girls graduating in her class at a Manhattan privatehigh school (Sales and Plummer, 2016). The author uses the story topoint out how social media helps other people in advocating for achange in the society for the better. Nevertheless, the author shiftsher attention to boys with the aim of finding out whether theysimilar pressure to present a particular image. She states herencounter with Ethan, a male college student, who boasts of scoringaveragely higher than Kobe Bryant in cheating on girls (Sales andPlummer, 2016).
Whatit is like to be a girl today
Collectively,these indicate that the etiquette of dating on social media seems toapply more scrutiny to adolescents as opposed to boys. The effectsobtained from such scrutiny entail the fact that girls are consideredin isolation, and the dangers and injustices they encounter areentirely theirs to solve. The author points out girls’ sufferingthrough social media by stating that they are expected to navigatethe harsh world on their own (Sales and Plummer, 2016). Mostimportantly, girls in the 21st century face challenges such asportraying a particular image that depicts them based on their sexualexpression. They are thus expected to post pictures of nudity on thesocial media platforms to obtain likes and comments from the world.Therefore, they live their lives focusing on what other celebritieswear, look like or do and end up emulating them to get similarattention.
Inconclusion, the world needs to understand that social media entails aplatform where people interact and share ideas across the world. Itshould not be used as a means through which people look for affectionas most have employed it to deceive others or torment them. Teenagegirls should appreciate their sexuality and focus more on advocatingfor positive ideas. Parents, teachers and teenagers should worktogether in ensuring that they uphold the etiquette of datingespecially on social media through maintaining their personalities inthe proper manner. These should be followed carefully by making surethat children receive the necessary advice based on the importance ofdating and maintaining relationships in the real world (Sales andPlummer, 2016).
Sales, N. J.(2016). Americangirls: Social media and the secret lives of teenagers.
Sales, N. J.,& Plummer, T. (2016). Americangirls: Social media and the secret lives of teenagers.